How to stop a friend from sending money monthly to “girlfriend”?
Hi, I’ve a friend who keeps sending money to his ‘girlfriend’ despite us mentioning all the red flags. His girlfriend is not local. He sends about 1.5k per month and he barely have enough for himself.
Here are some red flags: -They have been together for 2 years, and we always asked him to bring her out but she’s always working. -Even during eve of CNY when we want to have late night drinks, he said his gf’s boss wants to have reunion dinner tgt instead.
his gf is 11 years younger than him
he said his gf needs money for her house monthly instalment.
when he doesn’t have money to give his gf, he said his gf is understanding and would loan from others.
his gf works in a massage parlour (not judging here but even when his gf is ALWAYS working, even morning?! Is massage parlous working hours so long?) -his gf asked him to go back with her to China and would apply PR for him
Recently, he fell ill and don’t even have money for himself to see a doctor which is very worrying.
He still loves his “girlfriend” a lot and wouldn’t even ask her for money to see a doctor.
Anyone with similar experience? How do I get him to open his eyes to reevaluate his relationship??
Netizens’ comments
- You cannot help a simp.
- I can be his girlfriend.
I think you and your friends should take him somewhere and have “the talk”. Make it clear and try your best to convince him. Go show him stories of ‘girlfriends’ getting money from their bfs. If he still not convinced then just let him continue to give until he realises his mistakes.
Sometimes , some people cannot be saved. They need it to happen to them before they wake up. - His girlfriend probably makes more money than him lol.