Boyfriend (M25) won’t help me (F25) around the house, should I leave him? I’ve been with my partner for 5 years, lived together for 3 years.
When we first started living together, I was at university studying for my masters. During this time I was not working, but i did all the cleaning, shopping, organising etc…then I started working. We split the bills 50/50.
However, over time, I started to get extremely stressed and annoyed with my partner. I work from home, so I do more housework than him anyway, but I do EVERYTHING, whilst he does the dishes once a week and thinks that’s enough.
He won’t help me around the house unless I ask him and even then he either “forgets” or does half a job. E.g. only washing half the pots.
He doesn’t see a problem with never changing the bedding, clothes all over the floor, never vacuuming, plates with mould on them, empty cans all over his room etc….
I’ve spoken about this to him so many times about this. We normally have an argument and then he cleans the house for about 2 days then he goes back to sleeping and gaming all day.
He is so lazy that he won’t even eat unless I make him something. What do I do?
Netizens’ comments
- Ma’am, that’s not your boyfriend anymore, that’s your manchild son now.
- It sounds like you’ve told him multiple times that you need help with cleaning, and he’s made very little effort to actually change his behavior.
How much longer do you want to live with someone who doesn’t take care of himself? Are you interested in continuing to live the way you are now? It seems very clear at this point that nothing about your household stress will change until you decide to change it by leaving. - Well, that level of laziness is distressing, for sure. I would agree that he is being most inconsiderate – only you can decide what measure you have to take to either change his behavior or be done. I am curious is he has a mental disorder, considering that he also needs you to remind him that he is ‘hungry’. Do what you need to do for your own sanity – that is most important. If you are not yet at wits end, then explore other options?
- This is who he is. A lazy giant toddler.
You can stop washing his clothes as a protest. He’ll soon complain when he’s wearing the same dirty stuff and it won’t impact you one little bit so you should be able to continue as long as it takes before he learns.