My boyfriend (30m) lost all his savings in the stock market, I don’t know if I can stay in the relationship (30f)
My boyfriend disclosed to me that he is addicted to options trading and lost all of his savings 150k+ over the past few years.
I am in absolute shock 1) that it got this far and 2) feel conflicted about continuing the relationship.
He has a good paying job and is well driven (just became a cfa) but the stock market has become an addiction to him.
I am a 30f that has a good job, am overall financially secure and only trying to improve.
My boyfriend is seeing a therapist and I want to believe that he really wants to overcome this but I am also really struggling.
I am at the age where I want to take the next step in marriage, buying a larger home and don’t feel like he’s at the same place as me or that we have the same views on money (he is ironically a very frugal spender otherwise beyond this addiction) so we had always been on the same page.
He said he hid this from me for a long time because he was afraid I would break up with him.
I’ve been considering asking for a break or just cutting my loses and breaking up entirely. I have some triggering experience dealing with a former bf of mine back in the day.
That experience with dealing with an ex was taxing on me and my mental health. Though this situation is a little different in nature I’m worried about my mental health as i work through this with him- especially if we can’t kick this addiction together. What should I do in this situation- stay and help him through this or leave?