How do I explain. That I don’t have genitals anymore to this girl that I’m seeing? 27M 26F
My name is Kyle. I’m 27m and I had cancer. Im seeing this girl named Sarah. Now this cancer was aggressive and it caused me to lose my “male organ” because it was in there.
Now, I pee through a hole in my perineum behind my balls. So yeah I know I’m kinda screwed when it comes to bedroom activities. But I’m still up for do whatever she wants me to do to get her off.
Besides maybe an open relationship. I don’t think I could do that. But I’m talking to this girl and last night, she mentioned that she couldn’t wait to sleep with me and I kinda stopped her because I was scared to get down to business.
She’s been making lots of remarks about giving me a BJ and I don’t know how to say, maybe something like “yeah about that, can’t blow what I don’t have”?
I also don’t know if she will just change her mind about me. She’s the first girl I’ve tried to date since I lost my genitals and sadly I never got to lose my virginity because I was always nervous and look how that turned out.
So how the hell do I explain it to her
- Two things come to mind
-I will be shocked if anyone reading this can relate holy shit dude I’m sorry that happened I can’t even imagine
-get good with that tongue boy
- I think you should be blunt and to the point.
“I’m going to stay this bluntly and as to the point as possible.
- Be bluntly honest. Your a strong person to have survived. And a strong person can be honest.
- I’d just bring it up sooner than later. If she’s cool with it she’d be cool with if you waited a month. If she’s not cool with it then it’s better to go your separate ways before more hopes get up and more feelings of attraction or lust build up, which will hurt more on the way down.
- I hate to say prepare for rejection. It’s a possibility. But this is an unfortunate situation where being honest is truly the best way to approach it. Sooner rather than later