So im a 19-years-old female, sister, f28 and brother in law came over with the kids for dinner at my parent’s house.
I was watching my nieces while dinner was getting ready, we sat down and I happened to sit next to brother in law. I was wearing a skirt and it was accidentally lifted above my knee, my brother in law looked down at my leg and made face then loudly said: “Oh shooo, Op! This is gross, you should’ve shaved, that hair isn’t supposed to be there”.
Everyone stared, I told him “if it’s not supposed to be there then why does it grow there, can you explain?” He was like “it’s just not supposed to be there”, I point at his mustache and say “well, guess the same thing can be said about your little moustache then, huh?”.
He looks at me eyes wide open, and awkward silence takes over though some laughed. My sister told me to knock it off as my brother in law got up from his chair and went inside the bathroom. My sister followed and I could hear him having a breakdown asking her if there was something wrong with his moustache, my brother and I kept giggling but dinner got cut short cause my brother in law wanted to leave.
I later got scolded by my sister saying I stepped over the line and disrespected someone who’s older than me, who’s her husband and demanded I apologize to him for insulting him and ruining dinner.
My sister said the reason my brother in law got so offended was that he considers his moustache as a symbol of his “manhood” and so I insulted his “manhood” not just made a “backhanded comment”.
She said I psychologically harmed him and should apologize for it but I’m not sure if this fixes anything except how he feels about his mustachy mustache.lol.