A story was shared online by a netizen asking if he should respect the wishes of his late grandmother after the altar in his home caught on fire during the tea ceremony.
Here is the story:
Here is a bit of a back story, I’m together with this girl for a few years and I brought her home a few times. But my grandmother despised her and said that I should not bring back a Hainanese woman home as it is bad luck and said that “Hainan women are crazy”.
My parents did not really care but my grandma was absolutely pissed after finding out that her dialect is Hainanese. I told my grandma that she is gentle and good to me but she refuses to even say anything to her.
My grandmother died of a stroke a few months later.
It’s been more than a year since the passing of my grandmother and I can finally have my wedding ceremony, I’m 27-years-old this year and my wife is 26-years-old. I just got married a few days ago but something happened that made me doubt the marriage.
The tea ceremony was conducted in my home’s living room and just when my “wife to be” was offering the tea to my parents the altar in my home caught fire. Apparently, a candle fell and started burning the offerings on the altar.
The eerie thing is my grandmother’s photo was on the altar and there was no wind coming in from the windows and the altar is placed at a location where the ceiling fan will not be able to affect.
My mother immediately realised what had happened and told us to have the tea ceremony in the room and said to wait inside for 15 minutes later. We were ushered into the room by my uncle and he told us to wait there. It’s like my mother is telling me we cannot have the ceremony “in front of my grandmother”.
My mother told me to keep quiet and said she will clean up. My mother started to pray at the altar and clean up the mess made by the fire. 15 minutes later my mother and father came into the room and we continued the tea ceremony.
I am seeking the advice of any elderly if there is anything I need to do. As much as I do not want to believe this I feel that there is something more I can do.