I have just been married to my wife for 7 months now. Previously we were LDR (I was in Singapore and she was in Hanoi) and we finally managed to get her to Singapore and successfully obtain her long term pass.
However, I find her extremely lazy and does not want to work while I am doing shift work busting my … for 12h and coming back home only to find she’s just sitting about watching TV and playing with her phone which I am paying the phone bill for.
She does foot some. of the bills but she does not seem to be bothered about finding a job here or settling down here and seems to be on a “hibernate” mode. We quarrel almost every week and it’s mentally tiring for me as I have nowhere to turn to as well.
Has anyone of you experienced something like this or knows someone who had faced the same thing and what should I do about this. Pls help.
Here are some response from the internet:
- actually most viet ladies tot that they can enjoy better life in SG and assume that SG men are rich whereas SG men think that these ladies have lesser expectations, gentle & simple which is easier to manage as compared to SG ladies.No matter which country the lady is from, she is still a human being who still has her own expectations.Why not ask her what is she expecting from you?
- Before marriage, open two eyes wide. After marriage, just close one eyes. Since you have chosen her, take care of her lor. If not, refund meh. Dont expect a person to change overnight. You need to change your mindset first. If cannot tahan, then divorce lor. Anyway, u married her for her pretty looks iziz? Then bobian la.
- There is probably a very big gap in your expectations of her. Secondly, it is not easy for LTP holders to get a job too and they will need to get approval etc. You should probably ask her about her areas of interest and then, you can evaluate whether it is easy for her to meet the requirements of the role.