In a relationship for half a decade and this was what I recently discovered.
For context, I’ve never checked his phone before. However his behaviour over the last few weeks made me think that he might be hiding smth on his phone.
So this is what I found: He initiates texts with a ‘long-time female friend’ and offers to hang out constantly. In those texts are msgs like ‘i miss your hugs’, ‘i would give you a hug if I bump into you on the streets’ – these are things that he doesnt even say it to me. He’s always the one initiating those texts, innocuous ones starting with ‘hi’, or ‘you there?’. She is not responsive, so he will often have to follow up with a second text a few days later.
Their texts are infrequent. Sometimes he texts her right after waking up, other times he texts her late at night, right after we end our late night dates. Many of these texts are him asking whether she’s available to meet.
He proceeds to meet said friend without updating me about it (context: we would always update each other where we’re headed to and who we’re meeting. It’s just how we operate as we don’t meet often). If she’s just a normal friend, why hide it from me? I’m pretty chill with having friends of the opposite sxx and he knows that. We don’t give each other shit for things like that.
Before this incident, we’ve always been open with each other how our week went, who we met during the week and the kind of interactions/conversations we had thoughout the week. I didn’t know about this lady until I saw her name pinned right at the top of his telegram chat.
When confronted, he says he loves me and she’s just a friend? Then why hide? Why try to cover up his tracks?
I don’t understand.