Are adult relationships in Singapore destined to be more unromantic?
Had another date with a woman I met through online dating. Felt like I just went through another job interview. I was asked about my job, salary, whether I am dating to marry and BTO, while I asked about hobbies, passions, interests, etc.
I am 35M and date around my age if it matters. This is the fourth date I’ve had with a woman in a row who has no chill.
I miss the good old uni days where I would just laze around in my ex-gf’s room and do nothing all day. Or study in a library before catching a movie with friends. Or sneak out in the middle of the night to do some intense physical activities which shall remain unnamed.
Is it an unreasonable ask to find someone with some chill? Has work and adult life killed romance? Is the BTO-marriage rush really that big of a factor?
I rent a room in a HDB flat way out west for 750/month. I don’t see the rush. Why so kancheong?
Edit: I guess I didn’t make it clear in my post, but I am looking for a serious, monogamous long-term relationship with someone special. I state so in my dating profile.
I have no problems with the questions themselves, but do you really have to ask them on the first date?
Netizens’ comments
- I personally think it’s to ensure both of you are on the same page. the older you get, the less time you can afford to waste with a potential relationship that may or may not be worth investing into. I might be wrong but that’s my understanding~
- Most people at that age are looking to settle down on a certain timeline and don’t have the time to mess around anymore. No point finding out you share the same hobbies or interests if you’re gonna end up parting ways afterwards due to a fundamental incompatibility in life goals and future plans.
- In Sg probably. I feel like relationships sometimes are approached here more as a business partnership than a romantic relationship. Just part of the standard package of The Singaporean Dream