Guy doesn’t care about my pleasure in s-
Context
I (36F) went on two dates with a guy (34M) and I truly enjoyed them.
On the third date we had s-… and was bad, like he was very selfish and s- was over when he was done. I was frustrated by what seemed another case of a man with ‘adult film’ level of s- education, but thought to try again and be more communicative.
So on the next date, I tried telling him what I enjoyed and guiding him, with no effect, and when he was done, I told him I wanted to continue and I had not finished.
He pretended to be very surprised I didnt finish and said “you’ll tell me next time”. I found this infuriating and rude. It also made me second guess if I enjoyed other things about him and our dates and realized he might be insecure about s- which won’t make talking about it easy.
Honestly I now feel more drawn to end things although I feel bad for seeming to leave someone because of bad s-, and wonder whether I should meet again and explain better?
Dismissing my previous attempt felt like a red flag on emotional communication?
I just feel shocked and kinda lazy that at 36 I still need to explain very basics about mutual pleasuring aka s-, and since we met recently i didn’t create the emotional bond to want to go through it.