I [M34] found out my wife [F28] cheated on me
We’ve been together for four years and I discovered my wife cheated on me.
But I discovered by reading her diary. I know that it’s messed up to read someone else’s diary. But I cannot help to think that what she did is worse.
I already had the suspicion she was into someone else. What I read was the confirmation of my fears.
I don’t know what to do, I have always been loyal to her.
I am so afraid to confront her. I don’t know what to say, because she would discover that I read her diary. I really don’t know what to do. I need advice you all.
Oh god look at me looking for advice on online. I feel miserable for what I did and for what I discovered. I could REALLY use some advice please.
- Really? You found out your wife cheated and you are worried about her finding out you read her diary? FFS
- Kick to the curb, start again. Someone who cheats on you either doesn’t respect you enough to tell you the truth, or thinks you are stupid enough to never find out.
Both are disgusting and personally I refuse to even be friends with people who cheat on their spouse. It’s one of the most incredible betrayals a person can make, and one that is totally unnecessary (just divorce/break up). It always, without fail, indicates a failure in character and ethics that is so severe that the person cannot be trusted. Fundamentally, cheaters make a decision to irrecoverably hurt their partner emotionally for mere physical or emotional pleasure. Then, they make that decision again and again.
And if you can’t trust your wife, who can you trust?