Ex-wife (39F) is going homeless. Our 2 daughters (4F & 6F) are moving in with me (33M) but I refuse to let my ex-wife move into my house.
My ex-wife and I were married for about 7 years and have 2 daughters. The end of our marriage was rocky and she ended up divorcing me about a year and a half ago. It was a hard time for me but after everything was finalized, I understood that the divorce was really needed and I’m truly happy now. I have moved on long ago and progressing in my life like never before. We have a good co-parenting relationship, but nothing more. I live in my own home and my ex lives in an apartment she rents.
My ex recently called me to ask for help. She hasn’t been doing well financially and can’t afford rent anymore. She told me she had nowhere to go. She asked if she could move in together with our daughters for a couple of months until she finds a new job and new place.
She said that she was going to help me out at home by cooking, cleaning, and doing all the housework. She kept going on about how she had nobody and that I’m her last hope. She said that she knows I’m able to take care of all of us financially and that it would be amazing if I helped her out in these tough times.
I told her first off that I’m ready to take in our daughters full-time whenever needed and that she could let me know anytime when I could come to pick up their stuff. My daughters are my number 1 priority and I’ll always take care of them no matter what happens.
I did tell her that I won’t let her move in under any circumstances. I told her that the financial safety and security I provide are a privilege she doesn’t have. I am always ready to take care of our daughters, but what happens to her is non of my concern.
She started crying and she kept telling me that she would be the perfect housewife and help out as much as she could. I told her that I don’t need nor do I want her as my housewife.
I know that I come off as heartless but I don’t see why it would be my obligation to help her. She isn’t my wife anymore so anything that doesn’t concern the kids, I truly don’t care about. The only obligation I have is to take care of our daughters and I’m going to do that without hesitation. I don’t want to have my ex involved in my life any more than she already is and have no plan to change that.
Do you guys think I owe her help in this situation?
I know for a fact if I went through this situation, she wouldn’t even give me the time of day. Let alone help me in any way.