I had a daughter when I was 17, when she was 3 I was arrested and sent to prison. I was sentenced to 20 years but was released after 12. That was 8 months ago.
After I was convicted my then-girlfriend visited me every second week for a year. But then she stopped as she met someone new. I was happy for her, I didn’t want her to wait for me. I just asked her to stay in my daughter’s life.
After I was released I contacted her and asked if I could see my daughter. She said no. She said that she was afraid of me and didn’t want me to have contact with my daughter.
I know I was absent from their lifes for over a decade, I wasn’t there to be her father. But knowing that I’ll finally get to see my daughter when I get out was the only thing that gave me motivation to keep living. I don’t want to suddenly start being her dad again if she doesn’t want me to. I just want to be in her life, I just want her to know she has a dad.
I’ve been begging her for half a year and nothing. I want to be in her life. I don’t know what I can do to prove to my ex-girlfriend that I’m not a bad influence in their lifes. I think my daughter deserves to know the truth about me.
Here are what netizen thinks:
Are your parents alive and do they have a functioning relationship with your daughter
I do think you have to be mindful about the impact and lasting consequences of your behavior and de-center yourself here. Your desires are definitely not more important than a stable lifestyle for your daughter.
No matter what he did his ex has every right to be afraid of him because he went to prison that long. so I’m taking everything into consideration. And that’s the fact that she also has every right to tell him no, at least when the daughter is under 18.