What is the meaning of kinship in this era?
Saw a relative (cousin’s newly wed husband) at a corporate event today.
Went over to say hi and he doesn’t even know who I am.
For the past 7 years, he has been receiving Ang Bao from me during CNY.
Honestly, the whole family only gathers during CNY. We don’t even contact or meet up with each other during normal days. It’s just a once a year giving Ang Bao thing for the family.
In this era, people tend to be closer with their friends rather than relatives.
Can we still define kinship as blood connections or people we are close with but without blood relations?
- I’ve had relatives that say “i forgot your name” every year for 2 decades lol
And they are seniors/uncles its pretty nonsense if you have such relatives
I’ve also met some outside of the “family gatherings” i walked right past them with none of them reacting in any way, totally not recognizing me
Even old classmates would have recognized me since my looks are pretty much the same lol just sharing
- I…… Really don’t get much of the point behind a lot of CNY. All I hear from my Chinese friends is “the stress ofn the holidays for all the visit and awkward family conversations”….. Why bother, then? Just because a tradition is important is no reason to keep alive a tradition that’s stressful, this amuses me.
- Just be close with those you choose to be close with. Prioritise people who prioritise you.