In June, I met a guy we’ll call Chris on Tinder. We met up for dinner and had a great time and got to know each other. He told me he was recently divorced and divulged that the reason was that his wife wanted kids and he didn’t. This was great because I mention being childfree in my profile (I’m 31 so this comes up a lot).
We met up again and ended up seeing each other a couple of times a week and sleeping together for a little over a month before he showed up in my Facebook ‘People You May Know’ and he was very clearly married with a kid and wife. I confronted Chris (and of course ended things) and he begged me not to tell his wife before he could because she’s PREGNANT and he wants to be the one to tell her. I said I’d give him a week.
Within the week, his wife messaged me on Facebook and said he told her what happened, and I gave her the full story. I told her I was sorry he’d betrayed her like this and fooled me, and that I of course never would have started dating a married man. As we were winding down the conversation, she then told me she wanted me to apologize for sleeping with her husband and that she needed that for closure.
For me, this was a record scratch moment. I did nothing wrong here. I had NO IDEA this man was married, let alone had a kid and one on the way. When I found out I confronted him immedaitely, broke up with him immediately, and forced his hand in telling his wife. There is nothing on my conscience here. I was lied to, too. I am not going to apologize because I feel like it’s disrespectful to me to try to make me accept blame.
AITA for not being willing to apologize? I don’t know this woman, and her feelings here don’t have more value than mine do to me. I don’t want to debase myself with the kind of apology she wants, and she’s furious and spamming me with messages because I’m ‘unrepentant.’