I was enlisted into the Army for two years, after finish my JC education. I had always been a one woman kind of guy, so when my girlfriend dumped me out of the blue for another guy during my Basic Military Training phase, I was devastated.
No one to talk to except my bunk mates
I had no one to talk to except my bunk mates about what I was feeling and going through. I had always been a straight guy, but after my girlfriend’s betrayal, all of that changed.
After a period of emo-ing and confiding my sadness to my bunk mates, I started to take an interest in other men. I felt like I was in a daze, like I had no control over my body or my emotions. I was drawn to men in a way I had never experienced before.
Started to realised that I like men
I was intrigued by the idea of a same-gender relationship, something I had never even considered before.
At first, I kept my feelings to myself. I was scared of what people would think and how they would react if they knew I like men.
I was ashamed of it and I wanted to keep it a secret. But eventually I knew that I had to come to terms with it and accept myself for who I was.
I started to reach out to other men in Singapore via an app for men. I joined online groups and started talking to people who were in the same situation as me. I found solace in the fact that I was not alone, that there were other men who were experiencing the same feelings as me.
Slowly but surely, I began to build a support system of people who accepted me for who I was. I started to go to bars and clubs meant for my kind of people, and I made friends with other men who also like men.
I found myself more comfortable in this new environment, and I started to feel more confident in myself.
It has been two years since my girlfriend dumped me and I had also finish my army. I have come to terms with who I really am. I am now happy and content with who I am.
I have embraced my identity and I am not ashamed to like men.