My wife did not shower for a week
My wife became a different person after marriage and worse after having our kid.
After marriage, she stopped dressing nicely. She wears the same T-shirt and jeans all the time. When she got pregnant, she stopped putting on any makeup. Now after having our kid, she only showers once every 2 days. Her reason is that she’s tired. Things turned from bad to worse. Recently she did not shower for a week. She also cut her hair short, so she looks like a tomboy now and has gained a lot of weight from when we first met. The way she talks has changed too. Nowadays, she is either screaming at my kid or complaining about life. This is all very negative. She was no longer bubbly and cheerful.
To be honest, I am not very handsome. I know I have no right to expect my wife to look like a model. But the truth is SHE HAS BECOME A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON and I feel cheated. I try to find reasons to continue feeling attracted to her but I struggle every day.
I feel love for the mother of my child, but not attraction.
My female friends say it’s because I cannot afford the standard of living that will allow her to upkeep her ‘looks’ and ‘youth’. It’s normal for a woman like her to turn “auntie” in my situation. Perhaps they are right, maybe if I could afford a maid and she could stop working and get help with our kid, then she could look like one of those rich guy’s sugar babies. Even then, I couldn’t understand why other wives could have it all together and mine just doesn’t care and has given up.
Here are what netizens think:
- Did u help her with the responsibility load she’s carrying at home? Kids, house chores n cooking? If no, then start to make a change from there because I believe you’re evaluating your problem at the wrong direction.
- Share the housework & responsibility of taking carebof kids together, let her have her ‘me’ time on some days, get her small little gifts or words as token of appreciation, bring her out for dates just 2 of you…good luck brother!
- Perhaps it’s time to make her feel like doing so. Some do so by offloading their wives boring household chores a little. Or bringing them out for nice events where they need to dress up. Find a babysitter once in a while.