Am currently dating a girlfriend who is pretty wealth-off while I come from a humble family where both my parents work hard to get me to university and to where I am today as a graduate. I am very grateful to them for slogging hard while taking care of me.
So has been with my gf for a couple of years and she has been complaining in front of me about my parents poor financial planning, resulting in not able to sponsor wedding or flat but I just comfort her every time and she has also accept the fact.
So one fine day, we were sharing with my family about our financial planning and some miscommunication occurred and my gf, in the heat of the convo, tell my parents she doesn’t want to be like them to be poor after working their whole life… my parents handled it really well and stop the convo and went out for their dinner.
I think it’s fine if we complain in front of me but to say in front of my parents, I think that’s a little rude to be doing to the elderly generation.
Here are what netizens think:
- I’m thinking if this OP seriously wanna married this woman… Even as a woman myself I could see her horrible behaviour is such a huge red flag. The way she expected your parents to sponsor the wedding…. It will only get worse and you’ll only be more stucked in between than ever. OP seriously need to think twice…
- Let her know is her family that is wealthy not her. Planning is good but expect people to provide isn’t. As a lady I do also wish that my parents or my in law is well to do so that I can have a nice grand wedding. While the fact is that we have to provide our own wedding. Gone are the days that parents paying for wedding. Youngsters should pay themselves. Last time weddings in restaurants. Nowadays 5star hotel.
- Completely unacceptable if she was my daughter . Firstly , there are many factors that lead to wealth ..luck , opportunities , help from others etc not just planning that will lead you to your financial goals – that’s arrogance n lack of critical thinking skills . Secondly , if she can criticise your parents this way even before marriage , it will likely get worse after . She need to reflect and change her behavior plus apologise to your parents for being rude (and looked down on them )