How do I reject a girl without hurting her?
I’ve been talking to girls but I realise halfway through I might feel that things will never work out be it because of dealbreakers, looks or other reasons.
But I’m quite new to dating apps and I don’t know how to end things.
I used to just ghost the girl. But I soon realise it’s actually quite hurtful to the girl, especially if you’ve been talking for like weeks. Sometimes telling them the honest answer feels worse cause like after a first date you realise there’s no attraction how do you tell her? I don’t want her to feel bad about her looks. Saying something like “I’m not ready for a relationship” is kind of bs also
This is not a troll. Any suggestions for how to politely end the talking stage?
Here are what netiezns think:
- No matter what, rejection is going to hurt. And sometimes, no answer is ever good enough. So be prepared it will not end well no matter how careful and prepared you are to respond and end the interaction.
- I think it’s a nice gesture for you to not want to ghost her but to offer some words to part and for closure instead.
- Don’t say it’s not you, it’s me. Most won’t accept that standard reply.
- If you don’t feel a connection, just say so. Avoid talking about her flaws, someone else may find her “flaws” attractive. Also don’t give her half hearted replies to stay friends when you don’t mean it.
- Whether I’m the one who wants out or I’m the one on the receiving end, I’d prefer to just ghost or be ghosted. I don’t need to know what is the dealbreaker for him, neither do I want to hurt anyone’s feelings with the real reasons. (it’s never pretty)Â Just let it die a natural death. This is the most pragmatic way, knowing the truth won’t really change anything.
- Just be straight forward. You can keep the reasons to yourself, but you need to make it clear that you want to cut the deal now.
It’s better to end things early before it’s too late.