Never felt this way before
I am a M 28 and my girlfriend is 25. We have been together for 3 years now.
Last week when we were at her place, I met her grandma for the first time. Her grandma is living at her parents’ house temporarily as her uncle’s house is undergoing reno.
When I met the grandma I felt a kind of overwhelming tension I have never felt before. And before long, to ease the tension, I started to DIY myself while imagine about her grandma. To my surprise I fast fast finish loh
For some time, I thought of this as a fairly harmless exercise until recently when I started having performance problem with my girlfriend.
Everytime we try to get into it I will be overwhelmed with a sense of guilt (not sure whether from me imagine of her grandma or keeping this secret from her) that I could not get tahan long enough.
I don’t believe I have the fixation of some one her grandma’s age because I have never felt this way before.
Anyone able to give any insight on how to overcome this? Out of fear of judgement I haven’t been able to discuss this with anyone. Not much literature online about this.
Here are what netizens think:
- One way I find helpful is to stare at both of them. When it “comes up”, it’ll point to the person you desire the most. Really helped me make my decision when I had the same dilemma during lock down two years ago. Try it, hope it helps!
- What did I just read? If this is true, this is the worst place to ask for advice. Visit a counsellor or therapist if you find that its hindering your daily life. Don’t try to be stingy on this. A paid professional can help you better than internet trolls who will likely treat your post as a joke.
- The easy solution here is to leave your girlfriend and date her grandma. Problem solved, unless you want kids. But this world is insane and everything is so expensive, better don’t have kids and just lead a good life for yourself.