The state of my gf’s home bothers me.
I’ve been dating this girl for the last few months and had visited her place for the first time recently.
Things have been going well since we’ve just started. She’s a nice girl and we haven’t had any major arguments yet. But I was very surprised at the condition of her place. Things are cluttered from floor to ceiling, from the living room to other rooms. It’s all cluttered and full of stuff piled up. My gf’s room has stuff all over the floor, on the bed, chair. Clothes worn and clean are stacked all together in piles on the floor, side of the bed, on chairs. So many parcels unopened or opened and still in the boxes stacked everywhere. Makeup everywhere. Many beauty products and clothes and bags here and there in her room. New and used.There are so many stacks of stuff till the windows are almost fully blocked. She doesn’t seem bothered or concerned inviting me over so I wondered if this is normal for some households.
The living room had a clear narrow path to navigate around the house but other than that it’s full of stuff. Even the TV view is slightly blocked because of the things around. The dining table is more than half filled and stacked with things so only two people can eat at one time on that table.
I don’t know how to ignore this and I’m afraid to talk to her about it. I’ve since avoided visiting her place. Her family members are not in any profession that requires them to store large amount of things so I’ve evaluated that they are just hoarders. Is my gf one too? Should I be concerned?
She’s very neat when she visit my place. She does put things back and wash her own dishes. So I don’t really have to clean up after her when she’s over. She dresses neatly too. I just can’t tell her persona would be different from the state of her place.