What is this called? Is it gaslighting?
My spouse and I were winding down for the night, both in bed and I decided to turn on netflix, which I rarely do, cos I’m not that much of a netflix / TV person.
The wife saw that, and instead of just informing me that she had discontinued the subscription, the following came out from her.
1. “There’s no more subscription. You are also not a very TV person”
And while factually true, was there really a need for that later statement?
2. “How do you expect things to be there if you didn’t make it happen”
To clarify, I was just plainly turning on netflix and checking. Not complaining about netflix not being there.
3. “When was the last time you watched netflix with me?”
True. It was a long time ago. But how does that link?
Please enlighten. I had barely said anything and I got this barrage of words unleashed upon me with just the simple act of turning on netflix.
Here are what netizens think:
- It’s not gaslighting, but she’s probably using Netflix as a way to try to tell you that you guys aren’t hanging out enough (quality time) and you’re not doing enough for the relationship, and it’s probably something that she has felt for awhile now but kept it in- which builds resentment. Communication is a two way street, so you guys need to talk about this together.
- When my so don’t say anything when I expected him to say something, I will be super buay song.
My guess – she likely feel u don’t know what’s going on in the family eg u don’t even know Netflix has been terminated for months. She likely has mentioned it before yet u have no idea. This shows u never cared enough to listen.
If u didn’t make an effort, it will not be there. Hint : work on your relationship else your wife won’t be there anymore.
When was the last time u watch Netflix with her?
Hint: when did u both last date or spent quality time together? Make time for your wife. Go breakfast or watch a movie. Give her some attention
- U heng she used Netflix as a subject or indirect hint tt you guys are not spending quality alone with each other compared to last time. Why I say u heng, because u tried to on Netflix. If you tried to open the fridge and start to wonder out loud why the fridge don’t have things u like to eat…..u see if u kena 1 more big bomb. No need Netflix, no need amazon prime. Spend more time with her, bring go makan, go back to dating her. Which girl don’t want spouse or bf to sayang, manjah, and focus on her and her alone after work?