People who stay in a toxic relationship, just why?
Like if every conversation leads to an a argument all the time, if one party is the only one giving effort, if one party don’t care about the other, if only one party being left to solve every problem, why stay at all? If you have nothing to lose, which most cases are like that, why bother staying at all?
Oh, it’s cause you’re trying to change that person. You’re trying to prove that you love them unconditionally. You’re trying to prove that you’re loyal no matter what. You’re waiting for the day for that person to really appreciate you cause you crave that so much.
That’s all it is.
Well, here’s the harsh truth : It’s your own fault for choosing to stay when you can leave. Least you can do is shut the eff up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You picked them. Deal with it or leave.
Grow up, losers.
Here are what netizens think:
- You’re perfect I guess. You know the perfect solution to every relationship problem? You’re not in their relationship, you will never know the real reason why some people hang on. The most is you only know what people have told you and it’s only parts of it. This post just tells us that you are cruel, you have no empathy, no patience for people who have relationship problems. Hope you never ever need comfort from anyone when you’re in need. But from what I know, people who talk like this usually have the most issues. There’s already a lot of hate in the world, learn to find something to love and focus on. Hating on other people’s relationship problems won’t make yours go away. It’ll only distract you from yours momentarily.
- Maybe there are legitimate factors holding them back. Like money and children. Or other unknown variables. It’s not happened to you so it’s easy for you to dismiss. Might wanna be a bit less judgemental if you don’t have the full story. No one in their right mind would wish to stay on in an abusive toxic relationship if they can leave
- It depends on the context of the relationship, sometimes you don’t get to leave as you wish. There are responsibilities such as children and housing that does not allow one to leave as and when they want to. I know of a lady who had gone through divorce proceedings for a few years already, she had moved out of their matrimonial home and have yet to receive her portion of CPF contributions despite chasers from mutual friends to resolve things amicably. This means that she cannot purchase her own flat and can only rent a room outside. (Yes she has considered legal action but it is really just complicated.) See, so what if she left the relationship? If the other party wants to play punk, she will still be living in his toxicity.
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