sometimes i wonder if the secret to getting someone to love you is to genuinely believe that you are worthy of love…
i have seen many girls who (to put it bluntly) are kind of narcissistic, they will just go approach a guy with the strong belief that the guy is in love with her. even though at the start the guy may be lukewarm about her. gradually, it really becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. it is simply amazing.
but the problem is not everyone is capable of loving themselves (likely due to family problems at a young age), so it seems like the more you dont believe that you are worthy of love, the less likely you will get the love you want. somehow guys have some sensor that this girl doesn’t love herself so i wouldn’t love her either.
haha i guess the part about loving yourself first before finding love is true to a large extent.
Here are what netizens think:
- We all have a basic amount of self love, just whether we allow this to cultivate well or not. And then whether we know how to effect this in our interpersonal relationships with people in life. Nobody is attracted to insecure people, that’s a fact.
- I alw believe in loving yourself first..then you will know clearly on what you actually want in life. If you are always negative about almost everything in life, you don’t deserve to be with a positive person as that person will be tired of hearing all your complaints every sec.
- If you have 2 guys to choose,
an insecure guy who worries and overthink. Because he has low self esteem he is unsure why you are spending time with him.
A guy with a healthy level of self esteem who is sure of himself and knows how to take the lead.
Both of these guys like you. Which one will you spend time on?
You are what you attract.