My boyfriend recently got angry with me because I had been “playing with myself” without him. He wanted to get in on the action, but by the time he got there, I had already “finished”. I had no desire to continue, so I told him that I was done. His response was to scream at me and accuse me of not wanting to include him.
At first, I was really taken aback by his reaction. I had no idea that he would react so strongly to me having an ….. without him. I thought that it would be perfectly okay for me to enjoy pleasure without him being there. I thought that this would be a sign of appreciation for him, rather than a slight.
However, I understand where he’s coming from in a way. I know that he wants to feel desired and appreciated, and that he wants to be included in my pleasure. I also know that it can be difficult for him to feel like he’s not being included in the intimate moments in our relationship.
I think that the best thing for us to do in this situation is to communicate. We should talk about what we both need and want and figure out a way to make it work for both of us. I know that I need to be more open and understanding of his needs, and he needs to be more respectful of my boundaries.
With a little bit of understanding and a willingness to compromise, we can make sure that neither one of us feels left out in the future.