Please read this. Please give me advice. I need help..
I hope it’s not too long for you to read. But I really don’t know what else to do. So please help. I also just want to rant.
I have 3 older sisters, I’m the youngest and the only boy. My first 2 sisters are autistic. Not as bad as you may assume. They don’t cause any issues and simply just mind their own business. They are now 35 and 33 years old respectively, and none of us (family) expected that they’ll ever be married, which is fine really and they’ll be under my care and live beside my house with my future wife, which we’re happy to do so. The issue here is my 3rd sister, who is 30 years old now.
Now about my 3rd sister, when it comes to education, she is top tier. But her social skills + her attitude is the worst. Her whole life is always from home to school to university to work. For her, there’s no such thing as hanging out with friends (which she has very little). She doesn’t even keep up with any latest news about anything. Like it’s so bad, you can go to her and ask “hey do you have fb?” and she’ll say “What’s that?” and never bother to find out anything about it. She lives in her own bubble, ignorant of everything else that doesn’t concern her.
Okay, maybe it’s not that bad if she just don’t care about lots of things. Fine. But her judgemental attitude is probably beyond repair. She has this superiority complex, thinking she’s better than everyone. She has this “It’s either my way or high way” attitude, in other words, 0 tolerance on anyone’s flaws and imperfections, but she wants the world to accept her for who she is. She made lots of cash, and she is extremely stingy towards everyone. I don’t even ask for any of her cash, but one time I got an emergency about my car breaking down, and my salary hasn’t come in yet, I asked to borrow from her, and she kept arguing about it. In the end, she said she’ll give only 5 bucks. And I need to pay back within 24 hours. It’s ridiculous. I’m her brother, not a stranger. My first 2 sisters gave me way more to help me out and they say it’s important for them to know I’m safe. I still paid them back regardless. Even my friends are willing to give me like at least 100 bucks if really needed, or even more.
When it comes to religion, it’s even worse. Imagine you watch a movie say about those Greek / Norse Mythology kind, she’ll then tell me and my first 2 sisters to not watch cause “this will influence you to be out from religion” like ??? Even my first 2 sisters have more common sense than my 3rd sister. She can just walk away if her faith is that weak. Apparently, my 3rd sister wants to be “perfect”. You know, 0 mistakes, flawless. We all know human beings are not perfect. But she insist that we all can be if we try.
Now, she’s 30, and she hasn’t experience falling in love with anyone. She puts unrealistic expectations for a guy to be with her. Now, she’s asking me for help to look for someone for her. Thing is, I can. But, what I’m scared is, if any guys find out how she is, they’ll leave her. Or worst, they’ll get married, have a kid, get a divorce, and then I need to start being a father figure for my niece/nephew. I already have my first 2 sisters and my future wife to think about (about to be married in few months).
With all these attitudes, she always result to blame my mother. Yes, my mother was a narcissistic person. It’s not easy for me and my first 2 sisters too, but we pulled through and became better cause we chose to be better. My mother even apologized to everyone and has made sincere efforts. I’m getting old, so what good is there to hold grudges over something I can’t change anymore right? My 3rd sister doesn’t want to forgive our mother, so, fine. But still, she has now turned to exactly what our mother was. A narcissistic person.
So yeah, I’m tired. My first 2 sisters may be autistic, but the real inconvenience and a r*tard here is my 3rd sister. She doesn’t want to listen to anyone as she thinks she’s the only one who’s right. I have done everything. I have done all I can to make my 3rd sister learn and grow up as a mature adult. But, she choose not to grow.
There’s more to the story, which if anyone ask, I may just reply in the comments. Maybe.
If anyone can give me advice, please do. Thank you for reading all the was through.