Strong independent women
I respect you that what you believe is how you live your life and happy that you eventually find your partner.
I am jealous, I have not and will not deny that. I still believe in the more traditional way where man are earns more, and manage more. I myself is doing reasonably ok.
I think there are some details missing out that makes you think I am purely jealous out of no reason. So let me fill the gaps.
Those women that I am jealous of are not able to finance that kind of lifestyle if not for their partners. And they have the decency to say it’s just dating, or date around still. Or claim that it’s shared assets when they don’t bring that much to the table.
Like you said, we need to rely on ourselves to live the lifestyle we want. I totally agree and have been doing so. But it brings me nothing. Spending emotional capacity, financials and body as well (if we want to say that a women’s body is precious too) in a relationship and man could just give any reasons to breakup with you.
According to those women, their logic is just let man pay, man will only be loyal when they invested enough and it’s also a good way to filter out less capable man.
It’s not exactly palatable the way the put it but I can’t help but to think maybe they are right. What gets to me is just how self prideful they are in portraying themselves as strong independent women who are equal with their partners.
I am happy for everyone who find their happily ever after, with whatever beliefs and means and what not. I am just beaten by reality to be nice lady who play my part as a real strong women.
The best part is, people like me actually have to go through radical change in personal principles and people like them takes everything for granted.