Sleeping with my husband’s mistress’ husband as revenge.
Quick catch up to provide some context: I found out my husband was cheating on me with another woman, and so I slept with that woman’s husband in return.
I showed my bf all the messages (I will call him bf because his official title: my “husband’s mistress’s husband” is too long to type).
He was as distraught and hurt as I was. We know what we are doing isn’t optimal but what else could we do. Two miserable, jilted hearts that found solace in each other.
It is not about the bedroom activities anymore. We have become each other’s support and coping tools. My husband’s affair killed me.
It destroyed my self esteem and everything good I knew about love and my bf helped me build this back up. I feel beautiful again, wanted and desired. Judge me all you want because you will never understand.
My bf has just started his company and divorce would be the end of his career because she will take 1/2. He is hoping to be able to buy her out later on.
My husband and I both have good and stable careers and we have built a beautiful home together. We have been great at juggling work and parenthood (and affairs obviously).
If we divorce we are gonna need to work less and downsize. But maybe once the children are a bit older and they’re in school. So we are back to square one.
We stay where we are and make the best of our situation. One thing has changed though. My bf told me that he loved me and that he considers us the main couple now.
And that he finally started looking forward to the future again. I actually love him too. More than I care to admit. It scares me because now my heart is at stake if I lose him.
About my husband and his mistress, I don’t know if they love each other or not. The messages between them are way less firey now. This is for those who asked why we wouldn’t just switch. They wouldn’t want that. Especially my husband.
All and all, not a perfect situation but I’m hopeful