I haven’t had sex with my wife in over five years, and I don’t miss it with her.
Sex with my wife has been hit or miss since my son was born 32 years ago. As time went on, she became more focused on herself getting off and much less on it being a pleasurable experience for both of us. I was good at getting her off several times during each encounter and I’d be lucky to get off once in a great while.
About eight or nine years ago, she decided that showering daily wasn’t for her as it dried her skin out. This is in spite of using moisturizing soaps and lotions. She went to showering once a week. We’re both overweight and prone to getting sweaty while doing stuff around the house. Me, I shower every morning and later in the day if I’ve been doing yard work, etc.
Needless to say, she doesn’t smell or taste so good any more. She claims washing up at the sink is perfectly good and as effective as a shower. She’s also prone to weird rashes on her body that started a few months after the weekly only showers. When I’ve suggested it may be due to once a week showers, she says that’s not the cause and goes to the general practice doctor for prescription ointments to clear it up. I suspect she doesn’t tell her doctor she showers only once a week.
She developed chronic indigestion due to a hernia and not following some dietary suggestions to minimize the indigestion and gas. She burps a lot and doesn’t try to suppress it or at least muffle the sound. That means she’d loudly belch in my face when kissing and other things. Between the noise and smell, eww.
Over Time, I lost interest in intimacy with her. Between the lack of bathing, interest in only her pleasure and now her chronic belching it killed my interest.
I still love her, but don’t want to sleep with her anymore. I still get urges, but take matters in my own hands so to speak. And I’ll freely admit I wouldn’t mind having a friend with benefits, but am not actively seeking that out.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.