Yesterday I (30M) showered for the first time since my gf dumped me 26 days ago for her boss. Today i did it again and I also shaved.
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My next step is to stop living like a hermit. I’m sharing cause I’m ashamed to tell my friends and also I feel like none of them care
Netizens’ comments
- Well done, that’s a big step and I know that it would have taken a lot of effort! I’m sure your friends care more than you think, they just might not know how to approach it with you.
- (OP) Thank you so much man! I really wasn’t expecting any answers, i was just venting as I’ve barely interacted with any humans since i got here.
Regarding my friends, I’m a pretty rational fellow I think, I don’t mean to be all sorry for myself. It’s just that half my friends are smoke buddies, which are mostly never real friends in my experience, and then my childhood friend group are super judgemental regarding my lifestyle (weed, mainly) but also i don’t feel really close with any of them, so I’m not sure bringing up that I’m super addicted to weed games and haven’t showered in so long is going to work.
I guess I’m kind of proud, and believe in myself for getting out of these things, so I’ve always been wary of reaching out (which I guess has made me get to this situation with friends). - I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again – anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. Don’t want to shower? Do it poorly. Don’t want to shave / brush your teeth / make a meal? Do it poorly. I’m proud of you just doing something. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but this random internet stranger does care. My inbox is open if you need it. Keep fighting the good fight because you’re worth it.
- Good for you dude. Having someone you care about ripped away in such a manner always makes you question what you could have done differently and the only real answer is. Nothing. The real question you gotta ask is “what are you gonna do differently now? The answer to that should be “everything” you gotta take this time to properly figure out who you want to be and begin to build that person. It may honestly take years but in the end if you can positively pursue it you will turn round and realise you were Always to good for that person anyway. Make sure to never ever take her back.