I’m leaving my wife because she’s pregnant.
I have two beautiful, amazing children. They’re everything to me. But the stress nearly killed me. My mental and physical health were in the gutter. I was hospitalised several times.
I am finally in an okay place, although still stressed. I have been trying to get a vasectomy for about a year but I’ve had to save to get it our of pocket. Its been a journey.
I do actually have one booked for the end of September. I can not tell you how excited I was.
And then my wife excitedly told me she was pregnant.
I was not excited. I cried. I freaked out on her. I told her she needed to abort because I will not go through it again.
She is insistent that we’ll make it work, which is what she said when we had our second. I barely made it. I will not do it again.
I told her if she keeps the baby I will leave. She said I wouldn’t.
We’re getting divorced.
I have already moved out. The kids are so upset. But I just can’t. She’s begging for me to come home. I told her that she knows what needs to happen.
She doesn’t want an abortion. I do not want a third child. So what do we do?
I know this is my fault. We had very minimal intimacy but when we did I didn’t always check the condom after to make sure it hadn’t broken or something. I figured it was so rare, and we barely touched each other these days, so it wouldn’t happen to us. Alas, we are here.
I don’t know what I’ll do. I know I can not be in the house when the baby comes. I can’t cope with infants. Child support, I guess.
I don’t want to be the shitty dad that sees two of the three kids. But I can not risk another episode.
I hope she makes the right choice here. Having this baby will bring nothing but bad things.