I hate being intimate in bed with my husband
My husband claims that as his wife, it is my duty to satisfy him, and Give him What he want when he wants. He throws a tantrum when I say no, and keeps naging and pressuring me.
Its just… easier (?) to do it, than to listen to his talk about moral and loyal wifes. But oh do I feel dirty afterward…
When I try to talk to him and explain my side of things, he refuses to acknowledge me and my feelings. As a woman it is my responsibility to take care of my own needs.
- My wife has told me a few times she wasn’t in the mood but we could do it for me. I have no interest in being in bed with her when she’s not into it, where is the fun in her not enjoying it also.
- That is the one thing I could never do and have never understood. I work with other males who have this same mentality. “It’s my wife and she needs to be available for when I want it”. I disagree and even find it disgusting.
- Nagging and pressuring is not okay, and it’s not right for him to do that. Throwing tantrums, and claiming he has no obligation to make the experience pleasurable for you, is also wrong.
Personally, I think you would be better to leave your current marriage. Don’t settle for someone with no interest in your pleasure.
Assuming you do leave him, it’s worth considering what you want instead. It would be a good idea to figure out if you are attracted to men, or women, or no one at all.