I (33) think my current husband (33) thinks it was my fault my ex husband was aggressive to me
The first time he told me this, it was before we got married. he said he didn’t mean it. So I forgave him.
Now I found out he told his Mom recently (2 weeks ago) that he still thinks that the reason why my ex hit me is because I had too much personality.
This hurts so bad. It took me a long time to convince myself that it was not my fault my ex hit me. The police who helped me in the past once said, there is no excuse for someone to hit a woman. It was one of the things that convinced me to leave my ex.
Now I am back to zero mentally. I am doubting myself again.
I’m not sure if I should confront him as he might just say whatever he thinks that will appease me. Of course he will tell me again that he does not think It was my fault. But does not really mean it.
What should I do?
We cant afford counseling.
Netizens’ comments
That’s victim blaming and it’s really messed up. Unless you are putting someone in true danger, there is never a good reason to get physical with someone. That’s why it’s a crime to do so.
People who say and think things like this are often not worth the air they breathe. It’s unfortunate that you have such bad luck with partners.