working towards the wrong direction. Through my entire life, my father kept emphasizing on “Man Perfection” / “男子汉”. I was taught to believe I had to be perfect in order for girls to like me.
Throughout my entire childhood and teen years, I studied and worked at the same time in order to build up my savings. I told myself I had to move out and have everything at a young age so that I can get a happy family.
I rejected all forms of relationships especially in my teen years in order to increase my savings, which I began to regret as many of my homeland friends are happily attached to their partners (whom they met since they were 18).
Now I am 25 and beginning to worry as everyone in my social circle is beginning to get married while I am still single. My friends expressed their jealousy as with the lottery money I win coupled with my savings, I had everything they want at our age. But what they do not realize is they had everything I want.
They have a healthy relationship and received love from it. I am starting to feel my hardwork is all for nothing as I always thought my effort will finally give me a happy family, which I did not get to experience in my childhood with my parents busy working.
I know people often mentioned love depends on fate and cannot be forced, but I really tried. I tried to be the best person I can be in order to gain others’ recognition. I sacrificed my entire childhood, teen years, as well as early 20s to get where I am here. But I still could not get what I really want. Love.
Here are what netizens think:
- Huh~!!! @ 25 you want to settle down? Why not work on yourself at this age there is a lon g way to go. If I were you I work on self first like building up character , career , physically , mentally and spiritually if you are religious. Love is not as what you have painted so beautifully, it has it’s own challenges and it’s a set of it’s own problems. I would rather enjoy my singlehood at this age cos the moment you get married you know everything is about the marriage and no longer about self. Just go make yourself a better person in life and you will be like a flower that attract bees!
- Crazy 25 years old and you want to settle down. Go out and see the world don’t always think about relationships only.
- It is really not about marrying early, it is about marrying the right person! If u are looking to marry for the sake of marrying, pls stay single instead. U really cannot imagine the commitment (if kids are in the pic), pain, hassle and the financial obligations u have to go through when divorce comes up.