I feel like I am in a super weird situation. My boyfriend said he wanted to try out dating other people to get some experience and I suggested a possible open relationship to try out. He said he was dating another girl and did not want an open relationship because he was afraid she would not accept that.
I found this weird because in that sense he was choosing her and not me, I confronted him about it and he said he was not looking for a long term relationship but just wanted to try out being with another person. If it did not work out with her he wanted to go back to me in the future again or he saw a possibility try some other girls/ relationships and see if he would be interested in me after that.
For me this is really confusing as he said he really cared for me and that I was perfect to be in a relationship with but he still wanted to try out other relationships and then much later in life when he is ready again to come back to me again.. Is this some kind of relationship shopping? I have never experienced this before and still really love him but I also feel I am being put second and kind of as a reserve?
I don’t know how to feel about this. Is this normal? Is this a thing people do at some point in their relationship as a new and exciting thing? Or is this a way of breaking up and not trying to hurt the other person by giving them some hope? I feel so confused that I don’t know if I should be angry or sad. Is it worth it to be in touch with such a person and hope for them to come back to you at some point? It sounds very silly to me but I don’t know if it’s me having high expectations for a relationship or if this is normal…
Forgot to mention, he also said that we could still do physical things like kissing and hugging but just not calling it a relationship. We are supposed to have a talk on Friday as he still wanted to talk to me in person (we only talked on the phone so far).
just found out I was a “practice relationship”. Oh well. What a day to be alive. Just want to thank everyone for their kind words and for taking the time to read this and reply. I definitely do not want to get back together with this person ever again.