Bf (24M) told me (24F) I’m not as attractive as his ex
I(24F) have been with my bf(24F) for almost a year. This is the best relationship I’ve ever had. He’s sweet, thoughtful, and pretty much everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. I can truly see myself spending the rest of my life with this person, getting married someday, having kids together.
Lately he’s been kind of distant though, so I brought it up to him and asked him if everything was ok. I was expecting him to just tell me he’s kind of stressed, he does seem kind of stressed from work. But instead he told me he hasn’t really felt inspired to spend time with me because I”m not as beautiful as his ex. But he also still loves me, and thinks I’m a much nicer person, with the best personality he’s ever seen.
I’m really hurt, but I don’t know if I should be. It is just simply true that I’m not as pretty as the ex. Like she’s literally gorgeous. Before this comment it’s never really been a big deal to me, I know I’m pretty average, but he’s choosing to be with me right now. Also I guess if I really think about it my bf isn’t conventionally attractive, but the difference is I never even thought to compare him to any of my exes, or to anyone else I’ve seen. He’s the most attractive possible person to me because of who he is, inside out. Isn’t that kind of the same thing? And shouldn’t my personality matter more, which he says is better? So why am I so hurt?
I told him that I was really hurt, and he apologized, but says that it’s just how it is. I don’t know where to go from here.
Sorry if this doesn’t really make sense, it’s really making a mess of my head