When I say that I like a really good girl, my friends say this to me, “She is out of my league. She is too pretty, smart and her personality is great. She will have more options and she won’t even consider you. You need to lower your expectations bro.”
I hate this line “please lower your expectations”.
I only have one question to everyone, “How do I get into the same league or a better league than great girls?”.
What makes someone attractive despite their disadvantages?
Please share some actionable steps.
If you believe that I should just look for someone within the same league or that I cannot improve myself, then I think you should not read further.
Here is a little background about me:
I am kind of on the lower end for looks because of a specific health condition.
I also have a background which is a little disadvantageous and people constantly look down me.
These are issues I have no control over.
I don’t want to lose out because of things that are not in my control.
This is not even my fault.
No one, from my friends to relatives, believe that I can get someone good in my life.
Here are things I am already trying to do:
I am already going to gym to get into shape. Due to an injury in army, I cannot get into an ideal physique but I try to get as close as I can.
I am working in an average but meaningful job. I have worked extremely hard and have made some achievements there, even been featured .
I have also worked on my social skills (reading books, watching videos) by trying to be more funny and actively listening to people to have more meaningful and deeper conversations.
Despite all my effort thus far, I am still not going any further.
Dating apps are brutal because they are 80% based on looks (no matter what I write on my profile) so I get practically no matches.
I have tried physical dating events and have had some slight success. The girls say that they enjoy the conversations with me but they don’t want to be romantic partners. Some even offered to be friends.
I have no idea where I am screwing things up. Things seem to keep repeating.
I am still in a league below them. I am not sure how to climb up further.
If you have any tips, please do share.
Thanks!!!