late 20s now and I feel like a loser amongst my peers. How do you guys cope?
Honestly im struggling pretty hard right now, i feel like i’ve got not much people i can talk to because i feel so alone in this.
I’m 28, don’t have a high paying job, never been in a relationship, and it feels like i’ve missed out on a large part of life and i’ve basically wasted my 20s away.
Seeing my friends happily married, having good jobs and enjoying their 20s to their fullest made me question myself a lot. Just what the hell have i been doing with my life all these years? I’ll never be able to afford a home, get into a relationship, and afford any sort of comfort in life.
My hobbies are time wasters, my health is in the sh!tters, my mental state isn’t getting any better.
Feels like i’ve already messed up sometime along the past 10 years or so and i’ve started going down this path of no return.
Yes i hear people always say its never to late to change, but the fact still remains that my 20s are over and i’ve got nothing to show for it.
People also tell me that comparison is the thief of joy and i shouldn’t be on social media at all. But these people are themselves on social media and those that aren’t are loners who will inevitably lose contact with all their friends.
If there’s anyone like me out there, i just wanna know how do you guys cope?
your life can be changed with consistent effort. Sharing my own life story on my 5 years journey.
23 years old
i was working in a dead end it service job , obese. Hobbies are just watching anime and playing games with almost no social life
Self studied programming took up a cs degree . 25 got my first job in tech at a startup as a software engineer
26 years old
burned out quit after 1 year took a one month break
Work on my physical health by going to the gym at 27 dropped weight from 100 to 85kg
27-28 years old
Changed to a larger mnc company
Forced myself to go on meetup to meet people etc
Moved out of my parents to rent a room
28 last year
Came back to rollerblading after 10 years
Met someone i was interested in but messed up badly due to low self-esteem got myself heartbroken and almost wanted to quit skating
Picked up skating again but focused more on another discipline
Got promoted in my job to a senior role after 1 year in the company
Picked up yoga and dance from 0 friends after the breakup i slowly build up my friendships that lasted till today
Went for my first solo trip overseas to Thailand for 2 weeks
Shaved my head to no 1 after accepting the battle with generic hairloss
29 (this year)
Have goals of joining skating competition this year in march
evicted from my rent due to landlord wanting back the space
Moved in to my friend place 2 weeks ago
got myself burn out from skating to the point of reaching near death
Started back on gymming as well as trying other things like bouldering , aerial yoga
Starting to see a therapist for my mental health
You can see from my own life that i have up and downs but perseverance consistent effort will bring you far.
Work on yourself start small and keep going