Contrary to what other young people think, I feel it’s fine to give allowance and help with house chores at home as much as possible. Hear me out.
My family is a typical Asian household. Mum left workforce early to take care of us at home. Only Dad works. To me it’s logical to support Mum and sometimes Dad because of what they did for us since young.
Especially Mum, but sometimes, have to act a bit filial piety. Up the allowance by 10 or 20, even 50 sometimes to show you care. Act a bit. Then in the future if you need to reduce, they won’t have much to say, and remember to let them know you up their allowances. Do alrdy need to show. Cos you filial piety before, or did even more, so when it’s time to reduce filial piety, they will understand.
Next, housework. Since young, Mum has been the one doing it. Now it’s my turn. I do it for a few reasons. First being I don’t want to incur medical costs when they injure themselves. Wipe the ceiling fan? Come I do. Mop floor, I do. Wash toilet I do. I’m still young I do. The chances of me injuring myself is way lower than when they do them. When you do for them, you are helping yourself too. Second being you can train to do things yourself to prepare yourself when it’s time to live alone. Learn progressively. This week learn mop floor. Next week learn toilet. Following week learn ironing. I know many of us still ask our mothers to iron our clothes. Some don’t even know how to use washing machine. Now it’s the time to learn. For parents and underneath this, really it’s for yourself.
This might sound selfish, but what you are doing is actually to prepare yourself, to master the skills needed. To help yourself. So it’s ok to give your parents allowance. It’s fine because they might not be working, or they earn little. Show that you care. Because all these will be your arsenals in the future. Reasons to siam things. Take it as opportunity cost. Cost that you should be willing to incur for a better future.
Here are what netizens think:
- It’s good to be a cheerful giver to parents for their allowance monthly. Learning to do chores at home is very important.
- Why can’t just do because you are their child and you are one of the member in the family? Why need to list out so many things? The actions are correct but the thoughts are not.
- However, you said you feel it is fine to give allowance? Why it is fine? I thought it should be compulsory? That means initially you also think it is ok not to give, and probably after listening out some reasonings from some mature people, then you start to think it is fine to give and you started to do it from there. Weird.