28F and my fiance is 29M. He has full custody of his 2 daughters and 1 son from his previous relationship. I have been with him for 5 years. His oldest is 10.
When the world crashed and burned, the kids were put into remote learning. Because I was the one with a smaller income, I ended up having to stay home with the kids while he continued working. This year the school decided to stay remote, so I am still home. I worked remotely for a little while but soon was terminated due to the noise the kids made and not having a space away from the chaos. We have not had a break in over 2 years. No one offers to help with the kids. We never have date nights. Nothing. The kids are always here. Their mother is a deadbeat.
She took them for 4 hours the other day, despite having agreed to have them for 3 nights. The kids now hate her. We do too.
Anyways, we got invited out tonight and I’m itching to get out of this house. Our buddy is having a small get-together at his place (5 people, including us). We found out a week ago. Since this point, I have asked my fiance to find a sitter multiple times. I have searched as well. I’ve asked my mom and my gram- both of which cannot. So I told him to ask his mother. He has given every single excuse not to. I need to get out of this house.
After all, I’m the one who is constantly home with the kids and I need a break. I need adult time. Period. So I told him either he finds a sitter or he can stay home with the kids while I go out. In which case he says that I am taking things too far and that im acting like it’s the end of the world.