My parents have been pressuring me to faster get a job and work, and I’m really frustrated.
It’s not like they need me to give them allowance, they have sufficient savings and hv good jobs.
They just keep comparing me to my sister who grad same time as me but alrdy got a job. Well, sorry for not starting the job hunt early, since I was hospitalized and still struggling w some physical health conditions since last year. At that time, I was not even thinking of finding a job, I was thinking to take my life, I was in pain. Seems like they forgot and just blame me for being stupid and not starting the job hunt last yr, while I was sick.
And even though now I’m feeling better, I’m still on strong medicines until god knows when I can stop treatment. I really want to take a short break and alrdy starting to apply to jobs last mth. Seems like they expect me to find a job within 1 mth, in this economy. And everytime they keep telling me to just work, friend got 2k job at changi go work, pls we live at west side, and I got no human rights to take a rest???
I really just want to cry, but I got nobody to talk to. It’s not like I’m asking them for money, I have been paying my own medical bills (around 500 a mth), hospital bills and everything, in case someone wants to lecture me about leeching off them. I have been taking the time to brush up my skills while waiting for interviews, and hv been constantly applying.
Rest also cannot, job apply alrdy nvr get back to me yet, since only few weeks, also unhappy. Really dk what to do, they want me to unalive myself before they get happy and stop stressing me out???
Here are what netizens think:
- I hope you feel better after venting and letting it out here. Having an outlet is very important. I hope you’ll continue to find healthy ways to process these very difficult emotions and situations you’re in. If you’re ready to problem solve… Another way to look at this is that how they think about you is very important to you. That is why it matters to you what they say or think about your job search and ability to secure a job.
- If they are so important that their approval is something you want and without it you’re in a state of stress, perhaps learning to be vulnerable with your parents might be a difficult but very helpful long-term personal development you might want to focus on.
- Same. My father tell me that when I become 35, no company will hire an old woman like me. Also my father wants me to constantly be reading about stocks instead of watching Disney plus at home