My husband had always been a bit of an outdoorsy type of guy. He enjoyed hunting, fishing, and camping, so when he announced he was going on a fishing trip, I was not surprised. He had been talking about it for weeks and had been planning it with a few of his buddies. I was supportive of his hobbies, and I knew a few days away would do him some good.
It all started when I heard a loud commotion outside our house. I hurried to the window to find my husband loading a car with his friends. I was shocked to see that the car was filled with what looked like luggage and supplies. I recognized some of the faces, but I had never seen them before. I was most disturbed though, when I noticed that there were no fishing rods.
My stomach dropped when I realized what was happening. My husband was going to Batam with a bunch of other men, and I had a feeling that they weren’t just there to go fishing. I had heard of stories of men going to Batam in search of female companionship, and I was sure that’s what they were doing. I was devastated and angry.
I quickly called my husband and confronted him about the trip. He tried to lie his way out of it, but I could tell he was hiding something. I pressed him for answers and eventually he told me the truth. He had been planning a fishing trip to Batam with some of his buddies for weeks, but it was now turning into something else. He admitted that they were there to find girls.
I was furious. I couldn’t believe that this was how he was spending his free time. I was hurt and betrayed. I had trusted him and he had lied to me. I was so angry that I couldn’t speak. All I could do was hang up the phone.
After that day, my relationship with my husband changed drastically. I felt like he had broken my trust and I didn’t know if I could ever trust him again. I was hurt and disappointed. I had always supported his hobbies, but this was different. This was something that I couldn’t accept.
I’m not sure if my husband ever went on another trip like this, but I know for sure that I never gave him the opportunity. I made it clear that I was not OK with this type of behavior and that it wouldn’t be tolerated.
It’s been a few months since that day, and I’m still trying to come to terms with what happened. I’m still trying to figure out if I can ever trust him again.