I am a 25 year old man (transgender, so assigned female at birth) and my 28 year old girlfriend of 5 years completely blindsided me last night by splitting up with me because over the last four days she has become obsessed with having a baby. For obvious anatomical reasons, that isn’t possible, which she has known since we first met each other 6 years ago.
However yesterday night when I came home from work, she was sat there and proceeds to tell me that a few days ago it was like someone “flipped a switch” in her and she needs to get pregnant. I didn’t reach in the best way, I was hurt that she suddenly wanted to end it when we have a house together, pets, I was planning to propose at Christmas and had already been looking for rings.
She then said she was going to her parents and picked up her stuff while I literally was lying on the floor with shock. She then text me later on saying that she had made her decision and that she needed to have a baby with someone and raise a family with them, and she needed it soon.
I’m still completely numb with shock. I haven’t eaten or slept. I can’t stop shaking. She said she is final in her decision and that it’s what’s best for both of us since we want different things (note that I physically can’t have a baby with her, so it’s not a choice). She said I’m behaving in a childish way by crying and begging her not to leave and that she needs to be strong and seek what she needs and not let my “manipulation” get in the way.
I honestly thought I was going to marry this woman. She reassured me that she loved me and that the fertility thing was something we could work around. All her friends are having babies and she has decided that she needs to have a baby now and has even threatened to go and sleep with someone random to get pregnant or adopt a child on her own (note she has pretty much no income and has now moved into her parents).
Sorry for long post. Just needed to get this all out since I am completely and utterly in shock.