Alright broskis need your help. I just joined this MNC in a junior managerial position a year ago from an SME and a few months after I began dating this girl from a different team. I never presented myself as rich and neither did she.
Matter of fact, our first date we just went to ECP and had Bee Hoon there. I always made it clear to her that I’m just a typical average sinkie living out of an HDB with his parents and it never seemed to bother her. She’s visited a few times.
Turns out last night she broke the news to me as someone from old money that lives with her parents out of a penthouse in the CBD. It kind of dawned unto me as to why she’s avoided the idea of me visiting her and her folks. I won’t go into detail about what her dad does but he makes Bank. That’s right with a capital B. She’s reassuring of me and told me she’ll lead my first visit to her family but I’m still nervous and anxious.
I’ve been kena look down in Sec school and occasionally even Poly for being low SES. It’s why I worked hard to get to where I am. I genuinely love her and I wouldn’t give a damn if she were as poor as me. I just don’t want my nerves and insecurity to shut her away and I want to give our relationship an honest shot. How do I deal with her Mom and Dad?
Here are what netizens think:
- It’s utterly pointless to talk about this when you haven’t even met them. Rich people are like everyone else, ie. they can be anything. Some are humble. Some are arrogant. Some are stupid. Some are smart.
- To give another perspective, a lot of my richer friends don’t like to advertise their wealth to people who aren’t of the same wealth as them. It’s not because it’s snobby, it’s because people really do take advantage of it, or will make judgements or comments like “oh ur so rich you should pay for my meal” kind of comments. It’s never in your benefit to flex your wealth unless you’re running an MLM. She waiting until she knew she could trust you and then told you. Money can change people both those who have it and those who want it so I don’t fault her for keeping it on the down low.
- Because be it friends, family or relatives, there ARE people who get close and make use of them just cause of the money and they tend to bring a whole lot of issues and misery to their life. An advice I can give is, be confident, respectful and treat them and your girl well. They may not care about your actual status or riches that you have, but they would care how well you care and treat their daughter, your ambition and how their daughter’s future will be with you (whether you can bring her happiness).