I’m nervous that my fiancé might cheat on me.
So my fiancé and I are going to be getting married in a few months but one thing keeps digging at me and it’s this friend she has.
My fiancé and him went out once before they realized they weren’t attracted to each other but they’ve kept in contact.
Our entire relationship every few weeks or so she calls him and talks to him for hours and they text too a lot. I wasn’t worried until recently when he broke up with his girlfriend and is texting my fiancé about it.
She assures me that she loves me and only me but I can’t shake this feeling like it’s leading to disaster.
One instance is he came over a few weeks ago with his gf to my fiancés house and she silenced her notifications and wouldn’t respond to me at all.
Idk what to think. I’m super nervous and I can’t shake the feeling. I’ve met him once btw. What do you guys think?
Netizens’ comments
- Don’t marry someone you don’t trust, postpone the wedding and get therapy, if necessary with your fiance to. If that doesn’t help you know the answer
- Without knowing too many details, you may have jumped into this one too quickly and haven’t truly solidified your self-confidence or your relationship enough to squash these insecurities.
You need to be able to wholeheartedly trust her if you want this marriage to work. However you decide to seek adequate reassurance is up to you. - Whether or not she did/will cheat, you are focusing to much on it, this will not be a happy marriage if there is no trust from your part. You should either decide to trust her, find evidence if there is any or maby just pause the wedding itself as its way too quick for you, when you have this much doubt.
- First of all, it looks like you’ve already made up your mind and think that: a) She will go to him whenever the circumstances allow it b) She has a cheating behaviour
If she cheats or not, doesn’t matter because you don’t trust her. Either you are reliving some strong evidence from past experiences OR you’re scared of losing her and have tons of insecurities. This is not a good place to start a marriage.
If you don’t trust her and whatever she can tell you doesn’t matter to you, it’s better to part ways because if she’s a cheater, she’ll end up proving you right and that’ll hurt. If she isn’t a cheater, she’ll have to spend the rest of her life carrying the weight of an insecure partner who needs constant reassurance and that is not good for neither of you.
If you do trust her, you just don’t trust “the others”, you need to talk about this with her but at the same time you need to work on your own insecurities because today it’s her friend, but tomorrow it could be a co-worker, a gym pal, one of your friends, etc…
All the best for both of you!!