I dated a girl in March 2020 and we ended up breaking up in a pretty bad way in March 2021. I was studying and working alot and didn’t feel like I had enough time to devote to her so I broke up with her.
Since we dated for a year, we both got to know each other really well. It was to the point where she was over at my house 5 out of 7 days of the week. (When I still lived with my parents).
The relationship itself wasn’t that bad but I just didn’t feel mature enough to have a committed relationship with her. We disagreed on a lot and most was pretty core value stuff.
Fast forward to December 2022, I hung out at a friend of mine’s house who was having a party and I met up with a friend of mine who I used to be pretty close with.
We talked about stuff and caught up with life and I come to find out that my ex is now living in his house because his brother is now dating my ex. (His brother is transgender f->m)
She lives in my friend’s brother’s room. I was pretty surprised when I heard the news. (They were friends when we dated and we hung out with him a few times)
During the party I got a bit drunk and told my friend that I really missed hanging out with him. We bonded pretty good that night and had some laughs and I told him I wish me and my ex didn’t end so bad because I couldve come over more.
He said he didn’t think she had a problem with me and suggested I send her a text to see if she was still upset.
A few days to a week later I decided to reach out. I explicitly told her that I have no interest in her romantically and just want to be chill so I can hang out with my friend without any beef or drama.
What I was expecting to be an atom bomb turned out to be a really good conversation. I was relieved that we both seemed to have matured alot since we last spoke.
Almost a year has gone by now and the 4 of us (me, my friend, my ex, and friend’s brother/exs’ new bf) have hung out a few times and had some pretty good times.
Im pleased that there are no longer any hard feelings between my ex and I but recently there has been a bit of a situation…
I began dating my current gf Jan 2023. We stay together and she understands the situation with my ex. I still have no romantic feelings for my ex and my heart is devoted to my current girlfriend.
She obviously has a bit of insecurity about the situation but I would too so I dont blame her but I have asked her many times if she wanted to come with me to see them and she said no and she trusts me.
The part I need advice for: I went to go see my friend and hang out with them the other night. My ex and her boyfriend presented me with a question that I have no idea what do with.
“Would you want to donate your sp-rm for us to have a child” (I forget how it was worded exactly)
I guess I understand why they would ask me since they know me(?) and they said a bunch of stuff about me and them signing papers to dissociate me from the child (I dont want kids) but it’s just so confusing and I have NO idea how to bring it up to my current gf…
I dont want to be an a-hole and it feels like an honor that they asked me but I just dont know what to do…