I recently experienced a traumatic situation that I never thought I would go through.
My Thai girlfriend at the time was posting every argument we had online for all of our mutual friends to see and it was beyond humiliating.
It was like a nightmare and the ultimate lose face.
At first, all was good and we were having a great time. When disagreements started to arise, I was surprised when she started to express her frustrations online.
Whenever we would argue, she would post about it on social media and facebook, giving her perspective and her side of the story. She would post screenshots of the conversations we had and her friends would comment, giving her advice and support.
It was like a show, and we were the main characters.
The more she posted, the more people started to take sides and create a narrative of events based on her posts. People started to form their own opinions about me and my character, which made me feel uncomfortable and exposed. It felt like I was being attacked and judged in public, which was really difficult to deal with.
I tried to talk to her about it but she didn’t seem to understand why I was so upset. She thought that by speaking her truth and having her friends support her, she was doing the right thing. I explained to her that it was wrong to post our arguments online and that it was embarrassing for me to be the subject of such public scrutiny.
Unfortunately, she didn’t listen and continued to post our arguments online. It felt like I had no control over the situation and that my words and feelings were being twisted and used against me. It was a really difficult time for me and I felt like I was being attacked for no reason.
Eventually, I had to end the relationship as it had become too toxic. I was tired of being humiliated and embarrassed in such a public way. I felt like my privacy had been violated and that I had no control over the situation.
Later on I found out from my friend who had Thai girlfriends before shared that they have encounter similar situations as well. Guess I’m not alone.
In hindsight, I think that the problem was that we didn’t have a healthy way of communicating with each other and expressing our feelings. We should have been able to talk in private and discuss our issues without it becoming so public. I think that if we had been able to do this, the situation would have been less damaging and embarrassing for both of us.