My husband is the favored child. Not because he’s the youngest. He’s the most filial child among his siblings. I didn’t know his family makes a big deal in regards to rank at home until I’ve married him and had children.
For 2 decades, no males in his family had a son. They didn’t count the sons who were born by the women as the boys carried another surname. I’m going to keep my opinion to myself and continue….
When I had a son, some of the relatives made such a huge deal about it. My in laws were extremely ecstatic and gifted me many tonic and secretly gave us a lump sum. They would prep a table of feast when we visit and there was so much food we had to bring some back home each time. I feel loved by my fil and mil.
The issue is my husband’s siblings were jealous and won’t hesitate to be nasty or sarcastic when they have a chance, my mil would whine or act unwilling or say harsh things to them when they are too noisy but my mil always say my children are very obedient. Tbh, I also feel they are a zoo of animals wherever they go but it’s not my children, I dont care how they teach theirs. Overall, there’s been bad blood brewing for some time. My husband’s siblings are not filial or good people. My mil said they will not stop giving birth until they have a son as they didn’t want to ‘lose’ to my husband. Alas in their 40s, they finally had a son.
Not long I found out my husband’s sibling voiced out that as he is the older sibling, naturally his baby son should inherit more from my in laws compared to my son. This xxx runs an illegal business, have multiple homes, obviously earns more. Not like we are talking about millions? Their behavior is atrocious and are bullies all along and my in laws are always kinder. I am disgusted but I couldn’t care to say anything as my husband and I feel the same way. They want? Just take it.
I learnt they had been pushing my in laws to draw up their wills but my in laws wanted to do it on their own instead. They want to make my husband in charge on top of giving him assets that will not be included in the will.
Makes me understand why every family can be so different. When a child says the parents are not being fair. Define fair from the perspective of the child or parent would be different.