My wife is les and I feel guilty even thinking of divorce.
I have been with my wife since I was 20, and she was 22, so almost 10 years. We have an 8 year old and a 5 year old. Everything was going great.
In October 2020 she came out to me as a les while crying, but then backpeddled and said she was Bi. I had known she was atleast Bi, since when we started dating she said how she spoke to some girls on dating websites. She said she loved me and didn’t want anyone but me, but that she has regrets about not being with women.
I offered her a pass. Go have a female/female relationship with someone. See if that was what you wanted. If so and you wanted to continue that, fine. We could have an amicable divorce and move on. She never took me up on it, saying she did not want to. The point of it was I would rather you know now rather than later.
Today i found out that she has been telling her friends about it. She says she is gay, not bi. She says she loves me, but regrets that she won’t ever have a wife.
The last 2.5 years feel like a lie. I get before (not coming to grips with it). But now you’ve known. I gave you the option then. So this exact thing wouldn’t happen.
I’m the bread winner. Always have been. She a stay at home mom and a great mother. I feel guilty even thinking of the word divorce. She has no family (parents passed away). She has no income besides mine. Our house loan is in my name only (title is joint). Realistically, if we were to divorce she would have nothing. She has said that over the years.