My [26M] wife [27F] routinely ruins my sleep. Affects my job
So about 3-4 times a week my wife will set alarms on her phone for 3:00AM because she says she needs to get up early and get some work done. She never wakes up.
I will gently try to wake her sometimes but it always ends with her screaming at me telling me not to. She then has alarms that go off every 15 minutes after that until 5AM when my alarm goes off. She will stay “asleep” through all of them.
I have asked her why she does this many times and her response is always the same, “I tried to wake up and it didn’t work”.
I have tried every solution under the sun to mitigate this issue it feels. I have tried cooking her healthier meals, asking her to go on walks, offering assistance with waking up.
I know there is more but those are the big ones I feel like. I tried earplugs one weekend, but slept through my alarms both days.
She started offering to sleep on the couch a few months ago, but I still wake to her alarms and I feel it ruins a lot of our intimacy.
I work 12 hour shifts with heavy machinery so sleep is very important for my job.
Is there any way to help this situation?